Tuesday, December 14, 2010
By cultivating this new trait in the personality, one can be the person that everyone likes, the person who is funny, and just drips of charisma. The “HOLY GRAIL” of not just being funny... but being interesting, witty, likable and charming as hell. Funny Conversationalist That EVERYONE Wants to Meet and Be around…... someone who people become obsessed and fascinated by, a people magnet to all, one talks to.
Study upon study shows that a sense of humor is high up on the list of traits that most people seek in others.“Humor being one of the top traits Employers look for when hiring a worker”. There is an actual science to being funny, witty, interesting and being liked by other people.
A good sense of humor does a lot of good things for a person. It makes them more likable and increases their attractiveness. Also, people with a sense of humor tend to be very natural at starting and leading a good conversation. Each and every one of us can cultivate our inner funniness to a level that people would admire.
How to foster good humor?
• Choose to allow yourself to laugh at your own behaviors and beliefs— but not at yourself. Make that distinction clearly.
• See your life not as a distraught drama but as a romantic comedy. Recognize the inherent farce-like quality in situations.
• Creating your own funny expressions for your experiences makes you more flexible and allows you to interpret and assess reality better.
“Who do not know how to joke then there is no hope”- is an old saying. In real life, humor can eliminate frustration and pain, relieve tension, bring joy and hope. Sense of humor is an important part of emotional intelligence.
Humor is a special kind of tool for people to adapt to the environment. It is the human face of adversity to reduce mental and psychological pressure.
What is life without a sense of humor? Many a life has been inspired by the ability to laugh in a tough situation and smile at the miseries of life. The drudgery of life is often relieved by these little glorious moments of humor. The capacity to see the flip side of life in the day to day situations and to come out of the bottlenecks of life, with a smile is indeed a great blessing. Charlie Chaplin said that he would not have survived the greatest battles of his life without the great sense of humor he had. He could come out smiling in the hardest moments of his life. He laughed at the ironies of life, the very bitter sarcasm that life is.
That is why sense of humor is a must for healthy living.
When the going gets tough, how does one keep a firm footing and avoid slipping and falling into an abyss of despair? There is no better tool than a sense of humor. One of the main causes of suffering and stress is a sense of helplessness, powerlessness, or lack of control. But a sense of humor can put one back in control. Genuine humor points out the weaknesses of humanity, but without contempt. It is a commentator of life, not a critic of it. Its purpose is to uplift, not tear down, and to lighten the burdens of others, not add to them. Good humor is a shock absorber that helps us get over the bumps in life. Those with a good sense of humor have a good sense of life.
Sense of Humor detaches us from our problems and releases negative emotions; it is the best medicine. It transforms our thoughts, which in turn transforms our feelings for the better.